Experienced family lawyers will tell you that often, when two people who have a child separate and then get divorced, they don’t realize that they may be simply exchanging one set of problems for another. Certainly, you won’t have to live with your former spouse, but you usually still have to have some dealings with them if you have children. Why?
Even if you have full custody of your child, your ex still has a right to see them. This means you will have to call to arrange times and dates and you may have to take your child to their other parent’s home and pick them up afterwards. Or it may be that they will do all the calling and arranging for pick-ups and drop offs. It doesn’t matter; you still have to talk to them.
But what if you have shared custody? You may have agreed to shared custody thinking it would be good for both you and the child. It certainly gives your ex more involvement with the child. However, this can pose an even bigger problem especially if your former spouse is difficult to get on with. Your ex will have a bigger say in all the decisions that affect your child. They will have a say in what sports they play, what other after school activities they do and even in what school they go to. If the two of you can’t agree on any of these things, there will still be arguments.