(Post date: 2007-08-14)
As Judith Martin, aka Miss Manners, once said, "It is far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help." Enlisting a friend (or paid lackey) as a "wingman" to dispense little "did-you-knows," as in, "Did you know Tad went to Harvard?" or "Did you know that Erin has two advanced degrees?" is one of greatest dating ideas. This allows you to blush and shake your head mod...
(Post date: 2007-08-14)
Relationship experts say that communication is one the most frequented relationship problems. And really, it would be quite difficult to conduct a relationship without it. But you have to solve your relationship problems. How else could you declare exclusivity or tell your partner exactly what you want in bed? More important, how could you give each other the silent treatment if you hadn't been co...
(Post date: 2007-08-14)
Small talk is where wing-things really come in handy.
"Wingman" originated as an air-force term for a pilot whose plane is positioned behind and outside the leader's, or the gunner's, in an aircraft flying formation.
In the air, the wingman watches the gunner's back and sides, protecting him from enemy fire so he can shoot without impediment. In the dating world, a wingman keeps a woman's ...
(Post date: 2007-08-14)
Digital modes are great for some kinds of communication, but it's a bad idea to fight over e-mail, TM, or IM for the same reason it's a bad idea to use these as the sole method of communication.
Just as it's easy to project your own fantasies onto an unseen person, it's easy to misinterpret the intentions of an invisible sparring partner. A breezy, sarcastic comment might come off as insulting...
(Post date: 2007-08-14)
A good relationship advice is that no one should presume to have exclusive access to another person unless the arrangement has first been discussed and agreed upon.
It's like calling shotgun—your claim to the front seat means little until it's verbalized. Of course, this issue is more delicate than the front seat, and like any state-of-the-relationship talk, the "are-we-exclusive?" chat star...
(Post date: 2007-08-14)
It is a good relationship advice that once you do go exclusive, you must inform everyone else you've been dating dial you are no longer on the market.
This is best done by dropping "my boyfriend" into your conversations.
Confirm their suspicions with a simple, "Yes, we've decided not to see other people." Or, if you are the overzealous type and your new S.O. is not easily embarrassed, you ...
(Post date: 2007-08-14)
Notions of "personal space" shift from culture to culture. Americans, Germans, and Asians are more comfortable with a larger space-bubble, while Russians, Latin-Americans, Italians, and Middle-Easterners generally don't need a big buffer zone.
Depending on where you are and to whom you're talking, close-talking could undermine an honest attempt at getting to know another person. Read our relat...
(Post date: 2007-08-14)
Some meet markets are, for some players, strictly meat markets, where the purveyors are more interested in looking at a woman's voluptuous twins than into her eyes. Sometimes this proclivity doesn't become obvious until you're already engaged in conversation.
Maybe you can't disengage because you're a wingwoman and your friend is having a good time.
How do you direct his attention upward...
(Post date: 2007-08-03)
The Australian lifestyle is a fast paced one. What with all the busy, working men and women out there, there isn’t much time left for leisure and socializing. But, things have changed over the past few years. More and more Australian single men and women have turned to online dating to find the partner of their choice.
There are lots of Australian online dating sites and services that offer d...
(Post date: 2007-07-23)
With time being a major constraint, a number of single Australians lack in relationships and spend most of their time after work or business, alone.
So for singles that do not have time to start relationships, online dating services make it convenient.
It is a simple service that can be accessed 24/7, 365 days a year and is a method that saves time allowing users to find compatible singles...
(Post date: 2007-07-23)
You don’t have to be a Greek god to attract women or to be successful at dating.
Looks, in fact, are much less important than confidence and behaviour.
If you are balding, carry a few extra pounds, this does not automatically mean you are finished in the dating world.
Try and get into shape, if you can, not for women, but for your own health and confidence. Never underestimate the po...
(Post date: 2007-07-23)
Before you go about getting a relationship, decide if you are ready for one.
Remember that it is totally useless to start working on a “we” before you have figured out the “me”.
We all carry emotional baggage from our past around with us. To be able to succeed in a committed relationship, you need to be completely ready for it, physically, emotionally, financially, legally, and spir...
(Post date: 2007-07-20)
Staying together for the sake of not being alone is worse than breaking up in the long run. Still, even so-called mutual breakups are guaranteed to be emotionally charged, since one party is always seeking the end result more actively.
Decorum flies right out the window. How can you realistically apply protocol when you feel like throwing a vase at someone's head or telling a former lover that...
(Post date: 2007-07-20)
Crises can bring out the best or the worst in people, and with breakups, the chances that the worst will come out increase in the months directly following the breakup.
This is when the truth is sinking in, and the resentment begins to fester. During this time, the dumper needs to be aware of their ex's fragile state. Here comes some advice on getting over a relationship for the months immedia...
(Post date: 2007-07-20)
Getting over a relationship is often not easy and most of your friends will instruct you to receive a breakup in a classy manner, without drama or hysterics, but this simply isn't realistic. A breakup is not a failed business merger.
Still, such tips getting over a relationship are useful when your goal is to manifest emotional subterfuge—that is, to pretend you're not boiling over with rage...
(Post date: 2007-07-20)
Everyone's had the friend who seems to drop out of existence once she starts dating someone seriously. And everyone has the friend who is suddenly dragging their new partner to every gathering of his pre-relationship social circle, including Gentlemen’s' Poker Night.
Neither extreme works very well—both methods alienate the friends, not to mention creating animosity between the friends and...
(Post date: 2007-07-20)
Your Partner’s Friends
• Wear neutral clothes—nothing too flashy or sexy. This will prevent the friends from making damning judgments based on your appearance. The worst they'll be able to come up with is "She dresses a bit boring."
• Drink coffee or some other caffeinated beverage (although not so much that your hands shake) before the meeting in order to maintain an upbeat, energet...
(Post date: 2007-07-20)
If you are interested in how to improve relationship, you must consider gift giving.
When couples marry, there's an infrastructure already in place that dictates what kind of gift is given after a year (paper), two years (cotton), three years (leather), and so on.
Conveniently, too, once you're married, your S.O. can't jump to the dump if you give a crappy gift. But since no such guarantee...
(Post date: 2007-06-29)
By: Jodie Brittain
Dating is not like riding a bicycle. You can't simply start dating again after years of inactivity and instantly get the hang of it after only few tries.
Oftentimes, a guy who has just experienced divorce or the break-up of a serious relationship will go through a dearth of dates for months or even years.
That's normal, according to psychologists. It simply means that ...
(Post date: 2007-01-24)
WHAT IS SEXUAL DESIRE?
When we talk of "low sexual desire," we are talking of a lack of interest in sex. In street language, the person with low desire does not get "horny," or does so infrequently. Without desire, there is little or no biological motivation to be sexual. Individuals without a sex drive do not understand why they are not interested, and might not even know what it is thats miss...
(Post date: 2007-01-24)
Love is love is love...right?
Or are we just being politically correct by saying "it doesn’t matter who you love, it’s all the same"?
Regardless of one’s sexual orientation, behaviors, and identity, there are positive and negative aspects of being in a relationship that are universal. At the same time, however, love relationships between people of the same sex have certain unique iss...
(Post date: 2007-01-24)
It’s common wisdom that the brain is the most potent sex organ in the body. However, when we say "brain" we usually mean our deliciously dirty minds, filled with salacious dreams, alluring fantasies and forbidden thoughts. The question of distinguishing between brain and mind is one that philosophers have been struggling with for centuries. Now, science is coming to terms with this odd couple, s...
(Post date: 2007-01-24)
A few months ago a couple came to see me for a fairly unusual reason.
Married for 4 years, the working parents of two small children, they both felt their busy lives had diluted the spice in their sexual relationship, and they wanted me to help them bring it back. Theirs was not an uncommon situation at all -- but it’s a rare pair who will actually plunk down the big bucks for "spice therapy...
