Notions of "personal space" shift from culture to culture. Americans, Germans, and Asians are more comfortable with a larger space-bubble, while Russians, Latin-Americans, Italians, and Middle-Easterners generally don't need a big buffer zone.
Depending on where you are and to whom you're talking, close-talking could undermine an honest attempt at getting to know another person. Read our relationship advice so you know how close to stand and how much touching is appropriate when you've only just met.
• Keep about two to four feet (.6-1.2 m) of distance between you and your person of interest during the initial stages of flirting.
• Progress closer bit by bit, with small moves. Perhaps when you return from the restroom, you scooch your chair a little closer to his. Or as he's getting to the good part of a funny story, you place your hand on his forearm in disbelief.
• Let the touch resonate for a few minutes before you attempt another.
• Read the verbal and physical signs that you're being too aggressive—if the conversation suddenly loses its playful tone or he pulls away, you should go back to step 1 or stay more than an arm's length away.
Never attempt to cop an unauthorized feel by employing an otherwise acceptable move, including any of the following:
• A lingering hello or goodbye hug.
• A protective arm flung across the front-seat passengers chest.
• The "here, let me help you fasten that seatbelt" reach.
• The Heimlich maneuver for someone who isn't choking.
• Digging for popcorn at the bottom of his empty bag.
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