In this article you’ll find some online dating ideas for Australian singles in order to discover this brand new world of dating.
It's now just as kosher for a woman to make a first move as it is for a man. And for some, "dating" itself has gone by the wayside in favor of hooking up and hanging out—at least until the biological clock kicks in and there's a mad dash to find a life mate. All of these changes might lead a person to wonder (1) if the old rules of the pick-up still apply, and (2) if there are any new rules. The answer to each quandary is yes, of course. Past rules are still very relevant. And at the same time, modern times demand new guidelines.
Online dating lost its stigma somewhere around the late '90s, when people realized that it was a necessary replacement for the kinds of community events—like sock hops and barn-raisings—that used to provide a more natural means for meeting people. Back in the day when a sidewalk stroll promised actual human interaction as opposed to an opportunity to make phone calls and listen to your iPod, people would meet in person. Now, we're meeting online. This entirely modern forum demands its own set of rules, from how to present oneself in the best—and most inoffensive—light, to how to engage and disengage from potentially sticky entanglements.
How to Write a Profile
No matter how hard people try to be honest in their online profiles, they're not going to be able to present an accurate version of themselves. Maybe if they asked their friends, family members, colleagues, and shrink to weigh in, they'd have a shot, but no one person possesses enough self-awareness to write a 100-percent truthful description of her own personality strengths and flaws. The truth is, everyone presents an "online" version of herself that's as much a representation of her as Monet's Water Lilies is of actual water lilies. A few basic online dating ideas for Adelaide singles which will keep you on the straight and narrow:
• Never lie in your profile. Remember that omission is a form of lying, so don't leave blank any categories that you expect others to truthfully report, such as marital status, age, number of children, political stance, packs per day, and general location of your hometown.
• Do not use online dating clichés (e.g., "I'm the one your mother warned you about") or rely on lines from popular songs ("Come on, baby, light my fire"). It's rude to add to the already significant amount of low-quality online content.
• Do not write poetry. Since only 1 percent of poems are any good, the odds are against you that yours is the exception.
• Spell-check your profile and ask a grammarian friend to give it a once over.
How to Decode a Profile
It's possible to read between the lines of online profiles to guess at the truth—will he be a boor or a white knight? Is he a pouty prince or a gracious companion? Here are some clues to look out for.
• Lists of activities he doesn't like and would never do tell you he's a wet blanket.
• Putdowns of past dates show a general lack of respect for humankind, especially for the humans he dated. Should you start seeing this person, you can expect him to decide—and to inform the next two people he dates—that you suck, too.
• Specific deal breakers—e.g., "No mama's boys," or "Only girls who wear backward baseball caps and root for the Bears"—signal a person who isn't over loving (or hating) his ex.
• Typos and grammatical mistakes warn of a schlub who'll show up for Date #1 with a stain on his shirt.
• Assume that when categories such as "Marital Status" and "kids" are left blank, this person is/was married with kids.
Jodie Brittain is the CEO of Australian Online Dating website, Slinky Dating Australia - the Aussie-only Online Singles site for men and women looking for friends or serious relationships. Join Slinky Online Dating for Free!
Slinky Dating Australia
|
