After a few rounds of witty banter and some disclosure of vital stats, it's time to take a budding relationship into real-time, so let’s see some great online dating tips for Darwin singles.
One of you should now suggest a phone conversation. Letting the "pursued," or the person who was first approached, initiate this step lends this dance of romance a nice symmetry. The pursuer asked her mark to dance; by offering or asking for digits, the pursued accepts and leads the pursuer to the floor. Well, assume that's the case for this scenario and these are our dating tips for Darwin singles.
• In an e-mail to the pursuer (hereafter known as "Amy"), the pursued ("Bill") indicates interest in taking the next step. This might go something like: "I've really enjoyed e-mailing with you this week. Want to talk on the phone sometime?"
• If Amy replies in the negative, Bill should consider moving on. Not wanting to talk on the telephone could indicate an antisocial personality and/or a fear of commitment.
• If Amy's response is positive, she can offer a phone number and suggest a good time to call. (Amy should give Bill her cell phone number, in case Bill's a potential stalker.) If Amy says yes, but doesn't offer contact info, Bill can ask for her number. Always suggest a good time to call, so that you're not interrupted during something important, like your favorite TV show.
Here is how a bad phone call might go (with some analysis in italics):
Bill: Hello, Amy?
Amy: Hi, yes, is this Bill?
(Critique: Amy's effort to name the caller before he identifies himself is a nice way to immediately put him at ease.)
Bill: Yes, this is Bill. . . . Hmm, you don't sound at all like how I thought you'd sound.
Amy: Oh, well, that is funny. So, what were you up to today?
(Critique: Good for Amy for smoothly maneuvering past the rough spot caused by Bill's inappropriate comment and guiding the conversation in a new direction. Amy is a cool customer.)
Bill: Oh, you know, e-mailing a bunch. This online dating thing is like a full-time job!
• If the phone call proceeds more smoothly than the one above, and if both parties are generally enjoying the conversation—and there are only a few awkward silences— the next step is an in-person meeting. Arrange a coffee or drink date: a short, noncommittal meeting that's easy to end. In other words, you're booking a mutual audition for a real first date.
Jodie Brittain is the CEO of Australian Online Dating site, Slinky - the Aussie-only Online Dating Service for men and women looking for friends and relationships. Join Slinky Online Dating for Free!
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