Small talk is difficult, especially for those who weren't raised by skilled conversationalists and especially now that most of our communication is done via computer but do not worry: we will give you some useful dating advice for singles on small talk in this article.
It's vital to learn how to talk "small":
Such communication is the essential gateway to all other kinds of talk, including medium, large, and pillow talk.
• Once you're past the pick-up line exchange, stick out your hand for a firm handshake and a name exchange.
• Proceed with a breezy inquiry pertaining to your immediate surroundings, and address your potential pick-up by name: "So, Dave, tell me, I'm hopeless at this: How do you know when a cantaloupe is ripe?"
• Continue to talk about the subject at hand, subtly folding in a comment regarding your dating status: "I find it's not as fun to cook when you're cooking just for one." If he's interested, he will respond in kind.
• One of the most important dating advice for singles on small talk is to listen more than you speak. If you ask a question, let him finish answering before you jump in with a comment or another question. You might try nodding and cocking your head to one side as he speaks, to indicate you are listening intently.
• Smile and keep the tone light by avoiding serious or controversial topics, such as politics, illness, death, war, or terrorism.
Small Talk - Don'ts
• Quoting a single line from your favorite Monty Python movie/Simpson’s episode/Keats poem is interesting, but don't make lines from movies, TV programs, or famous poets the core of your conversational repertoire.
• Teasing is fun and flirtatious, but do it lightly—you never know what people take personally, especially if they don't know you enough to know that you're kidding.
• Never tease people about their appearance, specifically about hair loss, size, or anything else over which they have little or no control.
• Don't be gross—save that hilarious anecdote about your friend with the explosive diarrhea until a much later date.
• Never compliment someone on a body part. It's creepy, and it's a conversation stopper.
Jodie Brittain is the CEO of Australian Online Dating website, Slinky Dating Australia - the Aussie-only Online Singles site for men and women looking for friends or serious relationships. Join Slinky Online Dating for Free!
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