Internet or online dating is new to the world of dating. Blind dates, speed dating and now online dating is the new ‘’in’’ thing. But online dating can be tricky; in fact where any kind of dating is involved it can be tricky as we are dealing with matters of the heart here.
The world of online dating is growing fast singles all over the world prefer this kind of dating to speed dating or blind dates and set ups by concerned friends and family.
Professional online dating websites to ones that are just tawdry are springing up on the Internet. Make sure you are careful in choosing your online dating service.
Communication is important in every aspect of life, be it professional or personal and online dating is not to be left out here. The right communication skills for online dating will take you a long way in finding a date or the love of your life.
Communication for your online dating profile
Communication plays a vital role where your online dating profile is concerned.
1. Be clear and communicate what you want – to get the right kind of people to respond to your online dating profile you have to be clear in your profile. List out the things you are looking for. Do not make your profile generic as this will attract the wrong people, being specific will attract like minded or more interesting people. This results in filtering where online dating is concerned.
2. Filter using your profile header – thinking of a great profile header to identify the person you are or the kind of people you are looking for works as a great filter for you. The reason this works best is because this is the first thing people are going to see when your profile appears in their search. If you do not want to use your header as a filter then you can be creative with funny or witty profile headers.
3. Action to be taken – this does not sound as scary as it looks. All it means is when you are building your profile give the other person or the interested person a hint on what they should do if they are interested in your profile. Do you want them to IM you or email you. This way you can connect with the people who are interested in you without wasting any time.
Communication when chatting or sending emails
It is important that you communicate effectively and respectfully with the person you are chatting with or writing an email to.
4. Be grammatically correct – while sending out emails or chatting with a person especially a lady it is important that you show respect. Calling people sexy, hottie, cutie or baby is not acceptable and quite frankly a put off. Always refer to the person with their profile name or the name that has been indicated in the profile. Use proper grammar as well and avoid slang initially.
5. Show respect – just because the person you are emailing or chatting with is unknown or a stranger to you, does not mean that you are disrespectful towards them. Manners and respect are of utmost importance. Remember that the person reading your email has feelings and being disrespectful towards them could hurt their feelings. If you are not interested in the person, respond and tell them, do not just disappear.
6. If you are having fun, tell them – communicate that you are interested or having fun ‘talking’ to the person. This will get rid of all the guessing most people do and take things a step ahead.
7. Questions – if you want to get to know a person better, respond to their question-filled email with answers and more questions. This keeps things lively and exciting. When the questions end, the communication also ends.
8. Reread profiles – have you found it difficult to start a conversation with a person you like, this is easier to handle on online dating. You just need to read the persons profile over and over again to start a conversation or to continue one. Show interest in the person’s interests.
This portrays that you are paying attention to them and their likes, which is always flattering.
Communication for the first meeting
9. Leave behind the sexuality – on first meetings with your online dates it is best not to be overtly sexual. This makes you come across as a predator and this is not what you intended is it? Sexual aggression is a turn off for many people and leaves a bad taste where online dating is concerned. Respect your date and leave those ‘wandering’ glances behind.
10. Be attentive – be attentive to your date, his or her face and not their anatomy. Nothing is more uncomfortable than covert glances to the opposite persons anatomy. Leave a lasting impression with your attentiveness and not your lustful eye.
11. Do not bring up past relationships – nothing is more irritating than a date who brings up their ex on the first dates. Get the hint people; no one is interested on first dates about what happened with your ex. Leave the skeletons in the closet and the extra baggage behind. First dates are about having a good time and not about break ups et al.
12. Convey the message – always tell your date you had a good time. Later you can email them or call them and ask about the second date or say you are not interested in the best way possible. Guessing is not fun, be clear about your intentions always.
Online dating can be fun and a great way to meet new people, but tread carefully as it can be dangerous due to its anonymity, always agree to meet up in a public place and preferably on a double date.
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Jodie Brittain is the CEO of Australian Online Dating website, Slinky Dating Australia - the Aussie-only Online Singles site for men and women looking for friends or serious relationships. Join Slinky Online Dating for Free!
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