long term loving

Most of the advice out there on sexual etiquette is aimed at those just starting to date or sleep together. The sexual etiquette of long-term loving is oft ignored, as if such graces must be automatically up to par since you’ve been with the same partner for a while. All too often, however, in prioritizing other life responsibilities, taking our partners for granted, and rushing through lovemaking, sexual etiquette suffers. In making sure you’re still the accomplished lover your sweetheart fell for, consider if the following statements are true for you:

- I always make sure that my partner has an orgasm.
It’s important not to become a selfish lover. Sexual fulfillment is just as significant now (even more so!) as it once was, as the more you can keep your partner satisfied, the better your chances of staying monogamous. Furthermore, seeking to sexually gratify your beloved is one way of reinforcing how much you are truly concerned for his/her well being.

- I regularly tell my partner how I feel about him/her.
Don’t take sweet nothings once said for granted. People need to be continually told that they are loved and cherished. "I love you," "You mean the world to me," and "You’re the best" can never be said enough – but only if said sincerely.

- I savor sex with my partner and enjoy being intimate often.
Sex should not feel like something to be checked off on your "To Do" list. Take your time during sex and make it a priority in your relationship, just like you would going to the gym or watching your favorite TV show. Often the benefits of sex, like the stress relief it provides, are forgotten in life’s other promises for finding happiness. Lovemaking is good for you and good for your partner. Some of the best things in this world can be found in your lover’s arms!

- I kiss my partner often.
Don’t underestimate the power of a kiss – many kisses for that matter. Kissing is not just for the newly love-struck, but is one of the most intimate ways of expressing your feelings for somebody. Strive to kiss your partner when you wake up, before you go to work, and before you go to bed. This is sure to bring the two of you closer and make you appreciate each other more.

- I tell my partner what I find attractive about his/her body.
As you grow and age with a partner, it is crucial to express what you find sexy and lovely about him/her. While this may change over time, it’s important to tell your beloved what you still desire and what still turns you on. This will help you to feel better about each other, and improve what goes on when you’re making love.

- Things that happen between my partner and I are mostly kept to ourselves.
Don’t make your business, sexual or otherwise, everybody else’s business. Whether you’re having sexual problems or accomplishing sexual feats, try to keep certain things private, as this will show respect for your partner. Special shared experiences and circumstances kept to yourselves will help to strengthen your union.

Addressing all of these components of sexual etiquette will help to revamp your long-term relationship, and rediscover the reasons the two of you fell for each other.